By Lover of Words
Men and women all over the world are praying that God will erase their sex drives. They are praying that God will renew their minds, thoughts, and desires. Marriages for centuries have been robbed of intimacy because of bad sex drives. Let me explain what a sex drive is; first, are you familiar with a hard drive on a computer? Well, the hard drive is a data storage device consisting of a drive and one or more hard disks. The hard drive is the place on a computer where data information is stored. We have a place in our minds where we store information involving past sexual relationships, pornography, fleshly lusts, thoughts, fantasies, and inappropriate images. I have named this place in our minds the Sex Drive. Today, we will discuss this place in our mind, explore the problem, and ask God Almighty to erase it.
There is a problem in the United States today. This problem is the fact that sex sells and it is everywhere; especially on our television sets. It used to be a time when children could watch television and not be exposed to nothing more than a kiss. Today, a child can be watching prime time television and be exposed to nudity, profanity, and people engaging in an intimate kiss with the same sex. Our children minds are being assaulted by the media. Pornography can appear on your computer screen, without your permission, at the click of a mouse. Our society has become way to tolerant. Although, I enjoy having information right at my finger tips; I am afraid this benefit may destroy intimacy altogether.
When I was young I was exposed to pornography at a young age. I remember looking at a Playboy magazine that was lying around at one of my relative’s house. I saw a picture of a naked woman with leather, a whip, and spikes on. That image is still engraved in my mind after 30 years. Some of us have engaged in sexual activity before marriage, watched or starred in pornographic movies, read steamy sex novels, been victims of sexual abuse, visited adult entertainment clubs, or have had Satan plant inappropriate thoughts and images in our minds. These unfortunate events and images are stored in the internal sex drive of the mind.
Some of you may be saying, “Ok, what is the big deal? So what, if you have memories of great times when you have had sex with someone.” Well, I am here to tell you that it is a very big deal and it is a silent killer of the heart. This virus by Satan was planted in some of our minds before we were even able to read. Before we were able to decide good from evil; before we even knew what sex or intimacy was… this was installed by the enemy of our souls before we even knew if we were supposed to like girls or boys. Fathers, brothers, and uncles… you may think you are doing your young male family members some justice by exposing them to pornographic material of naked women at a young age; but you are being used by Satan to deposit a virus that more than likely will destroy their futures.
Let me paint you a picture, of what is going on in men and women lives around the globe. What you are about to hear is a silent attack, by spiritual wickedness in high places, that was devised to become a fool proof way to destroy God’s institution of marriage. Let’s say, Mike and Tina get married. They love each other and are planning on being together for the rest of their lives. Mike has been having sex since high school. He started watching porno movies at the age of 12, was involved in orgies in college, and frequented strip clubs with friends from work since he has been out of school. God Almighty revealed himself to Mike and he has accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as his personal Savior. He is in love with Tina and God has given him a real gift. Tina and Mike get married and on the wedding night they are engaging in sexual intimacy together! Wait, there is an intruder that has entered in… before Mike can reach sexual gratification his sex drive starts downloading information. He starts remembering having sex with his last girlfriend and reaches gratification.
This is where it starts. Now every time that Mike is with his wife; he is reaching gratification while thinking about images, past sexual relationships, the movie star he saw nude, or the woman at the grocery store that he undressed with his eyes. He learned the removing clothes with the eyes trick when he was exposed to all of the inappropriate material at a young age. He learned to reach sexual gratification in his mind, picturing fantasies, when he masturbated to pornography as a young teenager. Now every time that Mike gets with his wife these thoughts and images steal their intimacy. Mike has been with Tina for 10 years and he has not made love to her one time. He has never just been with Tina. He has always been with Tina and whoever Satan or the flesh downloads from his sexual hard drive.
Ladies and Gentlemen whether you believe it or not… this is adultery. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 5:28 “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” God says if we even look at someone with lust then we have been with that person in our heart. Some of us have been tricked by the enemy for so long that the only way we can be satisfied is to lust after someone in our heart. Anyone, it could be someone you know, don’t know, saw on tv, saw in a porno movie, lusted after in a strip club five years ago, viewed on MySpace in a seductive position, or saw at the bus stop on the way home. Folks! Satan is busy and he is getting his mission “Destroy God’s Design of Intimacy in Marriage,” agenda completely off. With the internet, and the amount of people it can reach, this is becoming a world wide Epidemic.
Although, I used the example of a man; women are engaged in the same type of activity as well. Satan has tried to destroy them in the same way. With the invention of sex toys, pornographic movies, and homosexuality… the marriage bed has been defiled. Men and women are bringing in third parties to their marriage bed like inviting a friend over for dinner. Christians are also guilty of this and think that they are spicing up their marriage. When I say third parties I am talking about sex toys as well. This is a clever trick and they are tearing down the intimacy of their marriage with their own hands. You may think that I am crazy but when you start to hear stories of people that have been married for 50 years and have never been able to enjoy sex unless they imagined someone else… you will start to get the picture. Husbands and wives you don’t want to rob your spouse of real genuine intimacy the whole time you are married do you? If not, realize that this is a problem and go to God for help.
What can we do to fix this problem? First, you can admit to God that you are aware that the problem exists. Next, you should take every thought into captivity, to the obedience of Christ, that exalts itself against the knowledge of God. You can pray and fast and believe God to break all of those inappropriate yokes. Fasting breaks yokes. Isaiah 58:6 says, “Is this not the fast that I have chosen: To loose the bonds of wickedness, To undo the heavy burdens, To let the oppressed go free, And that you break every yoke.” We can read the word of God and allow the Holy Spirit to renew our minds. See if you are constantly lusting in your heart… it is only a matter of time before you act it out. The Apostle Paul wrote “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really is.” (Romans 12:2) God’s will is for us to wait until he gives us a spouse and to enjoy true sexual intimacy in the sanctity of marriage. Also, we should protect our minds and fill our sex drives constantly with thoughts that are pure and holy in the sight of God. This will preserve the family.
In conclusion; Now that the Holy Spirit has revealed one of Satan’s devices… renew your mindset and thinking. Teach your sons and daughters to refrain from sexual relationships until they are married. Keep inappropriate pornographic materials out of your household. Make sure that you protect your children from predators and the assault of the television. Monitor what your children are doing on the internet. Observe, their friends and their friends parents. Refrain from bringing third parties into your marriage bed. This includes movies, toys, or other people. Believe me it is a trick… and stop comparing sexual intimacy to what you have seen in movies and heard from your friends. I am convinced that very few of us have even seen sexual intimacy and I would be willing to bet that what we thought we saw; was not it. It has nothing to do with length of time or sexual plateaus. That is the world’s trick so married couples will think they are missing something. If that was really it… then how come that is only good when you are not really with the person? Believe it or not… if your husband or wife left you and you got with someone else… you would be lusting for them with the new person. A never ending saga with no intimacy! God will you please erase our Sex Drives?
And God said, “For I will take you from among the heathen, and gather you out of all countries, and will bring you into your own land. Then will I sprinkle clean water upon you, and ye shall be clean: from all your filthiness, and from all your idols, will I cleanse you. A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh. And I will put my spirit within you, and cause you to walk in my statutes, and ye shall keep my judgments, and do them. And ye shall dwell in the land that I gave to your fathers; and ye shall be my people, and I will be your God.” Ezekiel 36:24-28